Leftover women, 剩女

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Lyrics and English translations:

多情的阳光 洒落在你的脸庞
Warm sunshine, shining on your face
看看周围的小伙 个个都挺娘
Looking at the young guys all around, every one of them are very girly

女人的渴望就是要有车和房
Having a house and a car is what women long for
嫁对人是最大的愿望
Marrying the right person is the biggest wish

问你有没有车问你有没有房
Asking you if you have a car, asking you if you have a house
我妈妈她也问你存折有几张
My mother will also ask you how much savings you have

假如你没有车 假如你也没有房
If you have no car, if you also have no house
赶紧靠边别把路来挡
Hurry move aside and don’t block my way

我也有车 我也有房
I also have a car, I also have a house
还有人民币在银行
As well as RMB in the bank

你们要是还没有我强
If you guys aren’t even as capable as me
别吃软饭我不是你的娘
Don’t depend on me, I’m not your mother

你没有车 你没有房
You don’t have a car, you don’t have a house
别想把美女泡上床
Don’t expect to get a beauty into bed

装穷哥你不就开个破宝马
Pretending to be poor, you only drive a lousy BMW
别装大款你把我来包养
Don’t pretend you’re a rich guy who can keep me as his mistress

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你没有车 你没有房
You don’t have a car, you don’t have a house
你还想结婚当新郎
Yet you still want to get married and be a groom

如果你生活都没奔小康
If your life isn’t well off
凭什么我和你去流浪
Why should I accompany you in wandering

你说我现实我承认也无妨
You say I am realistic/practical, that I may as well admit
骂我拜金我也不受伤
You can call me a gold-digger and I won’t feel hurt

男人总得有个男人的模样
A man after all should be like a man
没车没房 你别想找新娘
Without a car, without a house, forget about finding a bride

*From ChinaSmack

This video has been viewed for more than 1.5 million times within 2 days. This video features a lot of 'leftover women' (剩女, shèngnǚ) singing the song "No Car No House." I know the English is bad right? Well, it is direct translation, so please accept.

But is 'leftover women'?
In 1997, this phase became an official Chinese word that refer to women in their 30s - 40s (normally post-70s) who have higher incomes but still unmarried. They left unmarried not because they are fat or ugly, trust me from what you see in the video, they are all well-groomed and good looking. Just that when they are already financially doing well, they tend to have higher expectations on their potential partners.

Over the 1.5 million views, it has accumulated an equal amount of comments from the opposite (unsatisfied) gender.Most of the guys think that these girls are materialistic and a little childish. According to them they are just 'being too funny' and will be single for the rest of their life. Some say these ladies look ugly and like dinosaurs that they mistook themselves into some Jurassic Park site Some say they are gold-diggers. Some say they are unrealistic and some say they would never marry such women. Some even worse that say if they are rich, they will only look at the 17-18 girls and not these bunch of 30s.

However to me I think these are what the useless men say to make themselves feel better, just like why the fox says about the sour grape. I agree that not all the women in the video is good looking and some even have funny voices, but most of them look well-groomed, educated and pretty. Men, put yourself in their shoes and think. If you have a great job, earn well and educated, would you want poor wife? In your case of course you will because men are ego animals. But put yourself in a woman's shoe. A hunter and a gatherer, man is normally the hunter and woman is the gatherer. Since stone age, men are meant to hunt and protect the family while women just gather and take care of the family. So why when in this new era, everything seems different? These women already have everything and all they want is just a man who can provide and take care of them.

Ok, I hear you man.
You may think that in this new era, men and women are equal, so why should we be bound to the tradition? Yes, it is true that men and women are equal. But think this way, if you are already doing well and happy being single, would you want to get someone who is not so doing well and share your portion? As a man you may feel proud of buying you partner a Gucci bag, treating her an extravagant meal or even a trip to Paris. But in opposite, would you like a woman to buy you your Lacoste shoe, buying you a golf set, paying from her wallet after a romantic French dinner while the waiter staring at you with a sarcastic sight? I am sure you wouldn't. As I said, men are ego. But if you say you wouldn't mind, then you have a problem. You are not even self-motivated or have any initiative to 'change/grow' and if I am your parent, I will feel embarrass to have son like you.

I understand that everyone may has different view in life. Some are more materialistic while others are more down-to-earth. I am not asking you to be materialistic here, I am not, don't misunderstood me. In my opinion, I just feel that everyone on earth, men or women should take his or her own initiative to be better in life. Yes, we should feel satisfy with what we have, but what about you still have noting yet? These ladies in the video did not ask for anything but just house and car, the most basic in today's society. You need a house to live in and do you want your wife to stay with you by the street side? And we all know that we do need a car to move around, another basic need in today's society. And you calling these ladies unrealistic for asking a man to have what they already own? I understand how they feel. They may be a little too greedy or materialistic or even you may call them selfish. But you heard them saying they already have car, house and even savings in bank, do you think they will want to be poor, walk not drive, stay by road side just to be with you? Or maybe sell of everything and use up all the saving to live with you? She pays for the wedding, house and car, would you want that?

You may think I am one of them too. Love should be everything NOT being materialistic, again I repeat they are not materialistic but they are being too realistic. You really think you will be full from not eating but love? But what do you think you have that you could made these ladies to love you? No initiative, no motivation but blaming and whining about the 'sour grape.' Worth a second to think about right?